I love to compartmentalize things. If left to my natural tendencies, I would like to have a career box, a hobby box, a family box, a friends box, a marriage box. But have you noticed that life (or perhaps God) seems to like to take our little boxes and pour their contents into what sometimes feels like an already turned-on blender? I want to share some thoughts with you that I recently had after spending some time watching my marriage and my career spinning together in life’s little “blender”:
If you’re married, Jesus said that the “two are to become one”. And when you dig a little into this phrase, you find that it means much more than just a marriage contract or a physical consummation. It implies a deep, heart and soul connection. When we are married, we are to be so close to our wives, so emotionally connected at an intimate level, that we are spiritually considered “one”.
A result of this intended emotional union is that the assignment that God gives you to accomplish while on this earth (your career being a big part of what He created you to do), if you are married, is now a “group” assignment. God now intends for you and your wife to function as a single unit, as emotionally “one”. Consequently, in order to have significant success with your “group” assignment, in order to have the impact that He intends for you to have on the world, it is absolutely imperative that you BE deeply, intimately, emotionally connected to your wife.
So here’s the theory: If you are a follower of Jesus, your long-term “career satisfaction” will be directly connected to your “kingdom impact” — how much are you completely fulfilling the “group assignment” that you have been given? And a maximized kingdom impact can only come out of a maximized kingdom connection. (i.e. You and your wife must fully “be one” in order for your work and your career to go how it is supposed to go.)
To bring it home — If your marriage is a 4 out of 10, your kingdom impact is probably a 4 out of 10 — compared to the impact that He intends for you to be having. If your marriage is a 6 out of 10, your kingdom impact is probably a 6 out of 10 — compared to the impact that He intends for you to be having.
If your relationship is not a 10 out of 10, I’m not suggesting that your work doesn’t matter — It very much does. And I’m not suggesting that you can’t make a difference for the kingdom — You very much can. I’m simply proposing that you hold in your hand the potential for more… a lot more… regardless of whether your current impact seems large or small.
All my best as you journey,